I'll be the first to admit it's not the same anymore. My wife likes the house to be cool, so that is great to snuggle. When it is cooler it triggers dystonia - muscles contract so not only do they want to pull and twist, it is painful. So when cooler I need to get up and walk around. Uh, not conducive to a nice quiet morning of snugging in.
While I can understand some folks really do not wish to publish in an open forum, one way around that is to send your comments to be posted to someone else you trust. Then post to the forum with a Pseudo name "Jane, age 42, commented..... " (All you know is Female around her 40's)....
When I had first meet my wife, I was on Paxil. Near impossible to have sex, despite how crazy and horny I was. It just wouldn't behave. The good part was I had to be very creative in figuring out other things to. It was difficult for my wife as she wanted orgasms to be mutual. Well, most guys only need 30 seconds.... most women want 10 minutes. So with nice gentle hands for the first 9 minutes 30 seconds it was possible to arrange at the same time. Irony is to slow down I'd start thinking of calculus problems (something other than this beautiful women I was laying next to, otherwise I'd finish in two seconds!)
Maybe I need to try Cialis? I tried the little blue pill (Viagra) during Paxil days.... and got a pulse of 200! Feeling like your heart is going to explode isn't conductive to a romantic evening.