To our 'First-timers': WELCOME
Posted 22 February 2013 - 04:04 PM
That's it: I hope I can take it as it comes; I know it will only get worse but for today, it was fine...And I suppose we can only live one day at a time anyway.......
thank you both......
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Posted 23 September 2013 - 10:08 AM
I'm new to this forum. My husband was diagnosed with PD in late May, while I was visiting relatives out of state. I had known for some time that something was wrong and had been after him to see a doctor but he always had an excuse. He's been on carbidopa/levodopa for almost 4 months now. His tremor hasn't changed much but he's steadier on his feet and has some days when his cognition is out of the clouds, for a change. He's more than twice as big as me, so I'm kinda concerned about how long I'll be able to take care of him. I can certainly identify with those who can't get their husbands to see a doctor. I think mine used to have the crazy idea that as long as he never heard an official diagnosis of anything, he couldn't die of whatever was ailing him. I feel better knowing what we're facing because I can make a few plans for what's coming up. But I'm very frustrated at the unwillingness of his neurologist to talk to me and at my DH's unwillingness to listen to me. I sometimes wonder why I try.
Posted 23 September 2013 - 05:58 PM
Welcome, Rasna, and thanks for sharing a bit of your frustration. We all benefit when a newcomer opens up because not all of us get here with the courage to do that.
As a PWP (Person with Parkinson's), and as a woman who worked in the medical field as a young woman, I am not afraid to go to the doctor. As the wife of a stubborn man, I understand perfectly your husband's thought system of, "If it doesn't have a name, it isn't happening." He ignored problems in our marriage until it ended.
You will find plenty of experience, strength and support here. Feel free to share on any forum at any time. If you read the sections on preparing for the future, you will see that they recommend that the well spouse become Power of Attorney and/or Medical Power of Attorney for their PWP. That way the doctors HAVE to talk to you. Without that formal permission, they may be worried about HIPPA laws that protect medical confidentiality. At the very least, make sure your husband has added your name to the list of people who the docs and nurses can release information to. Then, there are some neurologists and Movement Disorders Specialists who are simply poor communicators, even to their patients. If your husband hasn't seen a Movement Disorders Specialist, I highly recommend you call the NPF Helpline for a referral to one near you. They are so much more knowledgeable than plain neurologists.
I am not a human being trying to have a spiritual experience; I am a spiritual being having a (sometimes difficult) human experience.
Posted 26 September 2013 - 09:37 AM
i am new to this forum so please bear with me
i am a caregiver to my husband who has multiple health issues and has also been diagnosed with parkinsons.....he has been to mutiple doctors and has taken different meds with very little success. he was diagnosed nearly 4 years ago and things seems to be getting worse everyday, he refuses to return to the doctors who he considers will not be able to help him any longer yet says he does not want to live this way. life before parkinsons was a challenge but he was involved and though he has been disabled for now 20 years i feel it it now taken a toll on not only him but the rest of the family.
i am only 45 and have been taking care of my husband for many years, yet the past few have left me very lonely and frustrated. i have now lost my husband who no longer participates in daily life, mood swings which are very difficult to understand, and no longer gets out of bed and makes me guilty that life is continuing around him and would prefer i sit in the house and i guess wither away along with him. im not sure how much longer i can continue to try and help someone who seems to not want to help themselves. ive tried to get him all the help i can including therapy to help him through his feelings and condition but refuses it all or cancels at the last minute, i think this may be a selfish way of looking at things yet i feel that i do not deserve to have to do everything and more for someone who wont take on their own situation. i have supported the home working full time, running the house, raising the kids almost alone and im now sorry to say im tired.
i have since had my own health issues including surgery and was forced to face it alone while continueing to maintain his care. i often find myself with thoughts of leaving the marriage but realize i couldnt live the guilt of walking away. how do i cope in this situation knowing its only his life he is throwing away but mine as well.
Posted 20 October 2013 - 05:34 PM
Thanks for your warm welcome and it is nice and sad to see there are so many others out there going through the same situation. My mother (62) was officially diagnosed with pd in 1999 and has slowly declined until the last couple of years. In 2011 she began seeing a new neurologist who is saying it is a parkinsonism not full blown pd. However, since this diagnoses she has rapidly declined. When originally diagnosed she was just having the tremors, then slowly started seeing all the signs. She gradually started falling, until right after the second diagnosis, when she started falling more frequently. Last year came the worst of them all, she fell and broke her right hip. For a normal person in their 60's that would mean hip replacement and physical therapy. However, for someone with PD, she spent the next 9 weeks in the hospital. 2 weeks in a hospital room and 7 weeks in in-house rehab. We were very fortunate for this, seeing she didn't have to go to a rehab facility, but could just stay at the hospital. Coming out of this, she is now confined to a walker, unless she is having a horrible day, where she is then confined to a wheel chair. She has a real hard time with this. My mother was a very outgoing and social person, but because of the walker she now doesn't want to go out. She doesn't want others to see her as handicapped. To top it all off one of the medications she is on makes her fall sleep at a moments notice. I feel for all those who are dealing with this disease and empathize with all the fellow family members/caregivers.
Posted 28 October 2013 - 08:13 PM
If your not willing to share on the open forum, whats the point. Your obviously looking to collect from people who are already suffering from this disease. Share or go away.
Posted 04 January 2014 - 05:41 PM
Thank you for the welcome, Sharon. My husband was diagnosed with PD about 6 months ago, but he suspected it for at least a year before that. Sadly, his primary physician and the neurologist who made the diagnosis official were, I thought, very dismissive and not willing to give him their time. He immediately started on a homeopathic supplement smoothie and several supplements in pill form. It is difficult to know if this has slowed the progression or not, but he said it made him feel better-probably a combination of better nutrition and a feeling of actively doing something for treatment. He is very sensitive about people making light comments or even jokes about PD and its effects. He was horrified when we went to a PD seminar and the presenters cracked jokes about the movement problems of some patients. He has depression issues, but will not seek professional treatment, because he doesn't believe psychologists can give legitimate help. It is very difficult for him to lose control and I am becoming depressed, too, as a result. Any advice would be appreciated.
Posted 04 January 2014 - 11:22 PM
My fiancée was diagnosed just over a year ago after suspecting for awhile and several misdiagnoses. Although PD is not ideal, it has completely changed everything in his life. He has become the most wonderful man I could have ever have been blessed to meet. He has his good days and his off days but as he says, "every day is a new opportunity." He has taken his diagnosis and become a better man, father and son. He has started college. He has begun a support group in out area. And most astonishing of all, he has begun an outreach in our community to help those diagnosed with PD, MS, or other disorders of this nature finding themselves without insurance, assistance in obtaining their astronomically expensive medications at no cost.
My Joe has become the most inspirational and wonderful man ever! I would think it may be nice if we put our hubbies in contact with each other. Joe may be able to help? He's not a psychologist or anything... Just a guy with an inspiring and bright future ahead of him, who just so happens to be diagnosed with Parkinson's.
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Posted 03 February 2014 - 01:02 PM
Hi there--my name is Kim. My dad, 80 years old, has Parkinson's. His father had Parkinson's as well. Up until the last couple of months, things have been going okay. Dad did not drive, but otherwise was fairly independent. He paid his own bills, scheduled his own appointments, did laundry, took out trash etc. Just prior to Christmas, he had an episode of altered mental status, which was found to be due to a bladder infection (he has a neurogenic bladder). In the ER, they kept him over night, and recommended him for rehab. He was placed in a long term care facility, where I did not see much improvement, and he actually lost weight. The breaking point was when he had another episode of altered mental status, due to bladder infection an pneumonia. He was hospitalized for almost a week. Needless to say, this time I more time to prep for a more preferable rehab placement. In the past several months, a whirlwind of social workers, speech therapist, PT's, OT's, doctors, palliative care doctors and nurses have crossed my path. He is rehabbing at an excellent facility now. Difference has been night and day. They anticipate he will need about 10 days more of therapy, at which time he will come home. I am trying to get services and equipment set up for his return. I am single and work full time, so this is challenging. I have no other family in the area. I am POA (medical and financial). I am here looking to see what has worked and not worked for people, as well as support. I am not new to the caregiver scene, as my mother had Alzheimer's Disease prior to her passing in 2007.
I know from experience that other caregivers can be the most valuable resource. I look forward to learning and sharing with you!
Posted 14 February 2014 - 05:37 PM
My DH was just diagnosed with PD yesterday. I am trying to learn all I can. I have seen many symptoms and thought that it might be PD but for the neurologist to confirm it just has me feel overwhelmed. The doc said it is "early Parkinson" so had not put him on any medication at this point and will see him again in 6 months to see how he is progressing. I am searching for the things we can do for the best outcome to stall the progression of symptoms if possible. Also in addition to the PD he is intellectually disabled. We have been fighting for him to get SSDI for almost 2 years now and so this diagnosis may help on that front. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Posted 15 February 2014 - 10:32 AM
Posted 15 February 2014 - 10:33 AM
One more thing, I do believe that "exercise is medicine".
Posted 15 February 2014 - 11:23 AM
I'm so sorry that you have to be here, but i feel you're in a good place. My fiance was diagnosed with young-onset PD about 2 years ago, at the age of 46. Actually, about a month before his 46th birthday. He has taken a really crappy diagnosis and situation and has turned into something truly wonderful. He has started an outreach and support group. I'm in grad school and have turned my research project into a PD research.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but welcome and know that you're not alone. It sucks that we have to be here, but you're among people who know where you are and can help. If you'd like, you are more than welcome to contact my fiance for more info and assistance, he might be able to help. His name is Joe and his email is email@example.com and just let him know that Ally directed you from the PD forum and I'll let him know you might be in contact.
And, that goes for anyone else who is in need of assistance. His outreach is geared toward helping people with PD who cannot afford their Rx to get them through Patient Assistance Programs and filling out paperwork as well as support. His website is
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