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Just a brief post cannot believe that is a half year that I decided I could no longer take care of my DH 24/7. It was the most difficult decision that I have ever made. But thanks to God that I did. He loves it, they have something going on every day. Today was Gardening and later everyone came in and had popcorn and lemonade. His PD has remained the same, except one new symptom which is slight drooling which are at times bad, other times not so bad. His speech has gotton much better now he has so many residents and nurses to chat with every day. His tremors come and go. He is in a wheelchair, but everyday they get him up and uses his walker and walks with the nurses. I could go on and on but I am feeling so much better myself, and I go every day for four hours and visit and take part in the afternoon events with him. Alot of the residents look forward to my coming, as so many have no one. So I feel I have found my mission making not only my DH but many of the residents a better day.

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Bless you, dear Maral!  You are doing something wonderful for your DH and for the others at the center.  I am grateful for your honesty and enthusiasm,. and wish you all the best.  It is so good to hear of a happy result, after a very difficult decision.

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Mara, I just loved reading your update!  You made a hard but very wise decision, and it sounds like your DH is in a wonderful facility.  I've seen and heard of similar examples of that here where I live.  The residents' families comment on how heir loved one is just transformed by the good care they receive and the fellowship they enjoy with other residents who are peers. It's not uncommon for residents to say that they wished they had moved in sooner.

 

 

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On 7/6/2017 at 4:23 PM, maral77 said:

Just a brief post cannot believe that is a half year that I decided I could no longer take care of my DH 24/7. It was the most difficult decision that I have ever made. But thanks to God that I did. He loves it, they have something going on every day. Today was Gardening and later everyone came in and had popcorn and lemonade. His PD has remained the same, except one new symptom which is slight drooling which are at times bad, other times not so bad. His speech has gotton much better now he has so many residents and nurses to chat with every day. His tremors come and go. He is in a wheelchair, but everyday they get him up and uses his walker and walks with the nurses. I could go on and on but I am feeling so much better myself, and I go every day for four hours and visit and take part in the afternoon events with him. Alot of the residents look forward to my coming, as so many have no one. So I feel I have found my mission making not only my DH but many of the residents a better day.

I feel I am coming close to making the decision for my DH to go into assisted living. I have home health people coming in for a couple of hours 2-3 times a week, but that isn't sufficient to help me get him out of bed, onto the toilet, transferred from wheelchair to lift chair, etc.  Was there any one thing that made you decide it was time to make that decision for your DH?

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Well when I had to call 911 for the police to come to get him up off the floor because he fell and I could not begin to do it myself. And this was happening often. Also he no longer could dress or undress himself and he could not even help do this himself in anyway, it was a real strain on me at almost age 80. Had to be fed, could with much difficult get to the bathroom using a walker but had to help him remove his pants etc and help him get sat down on the stool, alot of times we did not make it so meant having to change him. Just many many many things. As I said above he is now in the wheelchair and can stand up and walk a short distance with a walker but the nurses have to hold unto him. It is a difficult decision, but it was hindering my health. Assistant living was no option as he needed 24/7 care. 

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On 7/6/2017 at 5:35 PM, Linda Garren said:

Mara, I just loved reading your update!  You made a hard but very wise decision, and it sounds like your DH is in a wonderful facility.  I've seen and heard of similar examples of that here where I live.  The residents' families comment on how heir loved one is just transformed by the good care they receive and the fellowship they enjoy with other residents who are peers. It's not uncommon for residents to say that they wished they had moved in sooner.

 

 

Good for you LG.   It was a very wise decision for you to move there because as the disease advances and you eventually  require round the clock care you will not feel out of place or alone.  Hopefully it won't be any time soon but it's good to be prepared.

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Hi, Miracle.  Thank you.  It does work out really well for me.  I'm very, very grateful to the Lord for His hand in things that helped all the pieces fall into place in order to be accepted.  I almost didn't make it.  :-)  Having a good long-term care insurance policy is what made all the difference.  I encourage everyone to do what you can to get as good a policy as possible.  There are sites on line that will explain what to look for.  There are varying degrees of care and coverage so it's very important to study up on it or talk to a professional who can guide you. And getting it sooner rather than later will help you get a lower monthly fee to pay for it (i.e. the younger you are when purchasing it, the better!). 

 

 

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